Six experiential gifts: The guide for hard to buy for men.

Six experiential gifts: The guide for hard to buy for men.

Auckland gift ideas

Men are notoriously hard to buy for, either they don’t want anything or anything they want they have already bought themselves. There are some theories that say men don’t ask or want for anything because there is still a cultural expectation they should be the providers. Sometimes even asking for things that they could use to help their family than what would be really nice for themselves. Tom Sainsbury's parody of this is spot on. If this doesn't ring true, the man is often simply a very utilitarian creature. No frills. Which means they won’t buy anything more expensive or luxury than is required to fit the purpose. Who's heard of the man that wears underwear that has massive holes because they "still do the job?". “Enough!” I hear you scream “Just get to the part where you tell me what I need to get for him”  

For the lad described above, experiential presents reign supreme. Nothing like a new skill to add to the tool belt or an experience to share with family and friends - this will last a lifetime. Truly, presence not presents is valuable. Just be sure to make it all about him. Here are 6 experiential present ideas for them. 

Flying high

How about a flying lesson? Even if it’s not something you think they’ll continue, the whole experience will no doubt be a memorable one. Flying over the city. Getting to take control of the aircraft. You can even choose a four seater to put yourself and a friend in the back seat. 
Check out what’s on offer at the North shore aero club or Auckland Aero Club
Introductory flights, with no experience necessary
Cost: $179 - $459

Movie Magic 

Maybe the lad is a film buff who loves everything on the big screens. Treat him to tickets to the Weta Workshop Unleashed Guided tour. The 90-minute tour will no doubt inspire awe and wonder even for old souls. 
Cost: Start from $50

Blacksmith for a day 

I know you saw this one coming. If he’s into making things, nothing like some time spent in the workshop. Get him a pan-making, knife-making or axe-making course. One-day in the workshop to forge something that will last a lifetime. A truly unforgettable experience. 
Cost: $250 

Sports fanatic

If the man you're shopping for is a sports fan, why not buy him tickets to a game or match? This could be a great opportunity to spend time together while enjoying his favourite sport. And who knows, maybe he'll even share some of his favourite sports trivia with you 😕 Or, find a professional in their field to give a private lesson. Perhaps that’s Golf, or Soccer. This is one of those ones where you'll need to do some research. 

Cost: Varies


The Gift of Gastronomy

Is your man a foodie? Consider getting him a cooking class or a food tour. Auckland is known for its amazing food scene, so why not explore it with a guided tour? You could even make it a romantic experience by booking a couples' cooking class.

Good From Scratch in Muriwai beach has a great option for a garden to table experience hosted by TV personality Michael Van De Elzen
Start from $150 per person 


Get Adventurous

For the adrenaline junkie, consider an adventurous experience such as bungee jumping or skydiving. These types of experiences are not for the faint of heart, but they do make for unforgettable memories. Check out Go Sky Dive in Mercer. 

Tandem skydives start from $250



If you must buy a product there are a few principles you must stick to; 

  1. Treat them. Remember, it doesn't have to be expensive to be luxury. (If they like coffee they might not buy themselves a $30 bag of Specialty coffee; it's relatively expensive but not costly and very nice) 
  2. Holy Trinity of gifting. Presents should be any two of; thoughtful, made or nice. (Youtuber, Van Neistat, The Spirited Man goes into more detail about the art of gifting) 
  3. If you are thinking about buying something for someone's hobby, do your research! 

When it comes to buying gifts for hard-to-buy-for men, it's all about thinking outside of the box. Experiential gifts are often the best way to go, as they provide a lasting memory that can be cherished for years to come. Whether it's a flying lesson or a cooking class, the key is to find something that resonates with his interests and passions. The possibilities are endless. And if you do opt for a physical gift, remember to make it thoughtful, handmade, or nice. Happy shopping!

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